For the third year going to throw the hated work? Planning a bathroom renovation in decades? To learn how to easily take the first step on the escalator, which will bring you to a successful conclusion of the case - in the chapter from the book by Sergey Zanin, "How to overcome laziness, or how to learn to do the right thing to do."
Usually we talk about laziness, when it is not able to bring myself to do what should be done. In this case we can be extremely hard-working people. But to proceed to a particular case, give up the habit, change the fact that it is high time to change - for many of us have become almost insurmountable problem.
How to learn a foreign language? How to start a new project? How to increase their activity in the workplace? How to quit smoking? How to lose weight? How to overcome everyday "household lazy"? - Each of us can add to this list of his problem, which is not resolved for months and even years.
The author proposes a simple and effective way to deal with their own passivity, inertia, endless procrastination, which will help even the most limp man to become active and successful person.
The great thing about our method is that you will not have to collect in a fist, or change its character. Your plans and actions will be "samorealizuemymi" and you follow them, because they do not do them will be impossible.
Get on the escalator
Most of the cases that we make in our lives, is servile. We were forced to carry out their duties, resulting in a rise through the ranks and get a raise; forced to meet different people and we talk, ending with promises and agreements, which then must be contained. We make one more step - and we have no choice but to take a second and then third and fourth.
And while we usually do not have to force yourself. Everything happens naturally, "by itself": come to work, went on a business trip, we talked, entered into an agreement, signed a contract hit on his hands.
Word for word - and here we are bound, forced the implementation of which guarantees us a regular salary, developing business, brings rewards and bonuses, raises incomes, is the world new companies, articles, books, movies, songs, television shows, commercials and slogans .
At one cocktail party you are familiar with the Chairman of the Board. Learning that you are the director of advertising agency, he suddenly asked: "We're just planning to change the image. Do not want to take the job? ".
"Why not? I never gave up an interesting job "- it is easy to answer you. And, with a glass in one hand and a plate to another, go on, not knowing what took the first step of a moving escalator.
In the morning you get a call from the bank and asked to attend the meeting to the vice president of development. And most likely, the next two months, you and your staff (who to this day, too, had a problem with laziness) forget about the rest.
Once I had a firm which, among other things, engaged in precisely the organization of corporate events and receptions.
I was once asked:
- And you could not make a presentation of our company?
- Of course! And how much will be invited guests?
- Three hundred, perhaps, three hundred and fifty. Can you handle it?
- Do not worry, happened, and more.
- Excellent. Then tomorrow we are waiting for cost estimates and the draft contract.
Self-confident smile vanished from my face, exactly a minute. In fact, I was well-known fact that with my resources could make a presentation or a banquet for up to one hundred people. And then three hundred!
But it was too late to retreat. The next day the treaty was signed, and after two weeks of the presentation. Omit the details of what it cost me and my staff. We each have our own experience of the successful completion of the work that it was impossible to perform.
Numerous time-trouble, and ought, unexpected for us promises and forced actions effectively neutralize lazy. For example, opening his own business, you will immediately bind itself so many commitments - to employees, customers, partners, creditors, fiscal structures - that will be guaranteed to be active, energetic, hardworking, entrepreneurial, not less than ten hours a day.
For the most part we are starting their own affairs without any willpower. Often we do not even suspect that they have already begun to do. Thoughtlessly saying "yes" in a telephone conversation, taking the advance, agreeing to look at the script, we created a situation of no return.
By linking his first commitment, we are on the escalator, which can only move upwards.
Start by not starting
Do you want to become an entrepreneur. You tired of wage work, you've been dreaming about his own business. Long, long ago. However, on repeated sighs, "How am I sick of it all!" You have not yet come.
Meanwhile, you have a promising business idea and a general understanding of how to develop future business. But you do not know where exactly should start, so do not start. At the same time to time come up with the standard excuse - such as severe congestion and lack of time.
Start with the simple - to find information.
When I need some information, but I have little idea where to look for them and not even quite understand what I want to find, I create a chain.
I appeal to the man who, in my opinion, may know something about the subject of interest to me.
The first important result of the conversation. When I first try to verbally articulate what I need, I will begin to better understand the essence of my problem. Vague idea to take shape. Among the issues due to the interlocutor, who also wants to know why I came to him.
The second important result, I or just get the necessary initial information, or other person will name the person with whom I meet useful.
It is likely that the second source will not be able to help me, but it certainly tells you to whom I should contact.
Thus a chain of action. And, going from one level to another, I'll make it soon to the target, that is, gather all necessary information.
Do not search the net for information about starting a business. On a search query on the possible legal and institutional forms you get so many responses, such excess amount of information that the next step in your own business you decide to do only one year.
It is better to refer to the current employer from among their acquaintances. Briefly describe your idea and give a very general question: "What do you think, why should I start?".
Then take a sheet of paper and write.
People love to give advice, so I guarantee that in one hour you will get more useful information - on taxes, audits, accounting, documentation, recruitment, promotion and advertising business, finding customers and etc., etc. - than if the whole month of wandering the sites.
Stress - useful, because you have to communicate with the practitioner.
And then what? And then you act, is based on the information received. For example, your friend tells you to register as an individual entrepreneur, and say that this should be done.
If he does not know this, then most likely knows someone who knows. Anyway, after a few days you will receive a critical amount of information that will make you take your first real steps.
And if you did not make?
So you do not want to become an entrepreneur and owner of a business. You just like to think about it.
Claw stuck, the bird is the gap
Another example - moving to another country. For most of us it is so difficult and painful issue that often we begin to act, even without taking a final decision.We
waver, we say to others, and myself that are not yet fully defined, it is unknown how it all turns, but at the same time:
gradually collect documents;
find out the value of real estate or rental apartments;
visit - just in case! - Offices of firms specializing in immigration;
read books and articles about the country's alleged habitat;
to correspond with friends who have gone there;
know the cost of transportation of things ...
And when all information is received, all documents are collected, and the packet with questionnaires sent to the embassy, the case for three-quarters done. Claw stuck, way back almost cut off (which we do not think about it). And, already moving by inertia, we have to collect additional documents have to learn a foreign language, forced to seek buyers for the apartment, forced to gather in the street.
Usually two or three short steps to the case was initiated irreversible. We will finish it just because it has already spent some money, made some things, after all, they told it to his friends, colleagues or superiors and so awkward, or is no longer possible to retreat.
Start a business, not from him - one of the most reliable ways to cheat my laziness.
For example, what is required in order to finally start the long-delayed repair of the bathroom?
Little or nothing. Again, start with a pleasant and easy lessons - collection of information.
You can see the sites of furniture stores. You can go there - why not unwind in the output? - And see everything live. You can buy a nice home improvement magazine and explore design options for bathrooms. By the way, you can inquire at the same time, what new designs tiles, faucets, sinks, tubs appeared for the time that has passed since your last repair.
And if you're not a jack of all trades, you can ask the friends of the cost of professional handlers, and - again, just in case! - Ask them to recommend a reliable person. And pick up the phone - what if one day prove useful.
After all, it can be done? You can. And it even matter can not be called.
However, these views, conversations and visits to shops gradually - without straining the will and courageous effort - pushing you to the top of repairs. To be more precise - quietly pulled into repair.
The Last Drop - call expert (designer kafeleukladchiku, plumbing). Just to know his schedule, price and so on.
And somewhere on that stage will the final push. For example, the specialist will ask you if you actually plan to start work, and you take, so suddenly, and the exact date of call, and even invite them to come tomorrow.
Now the ball in his half of the field. Now he will have to convince you how wonderful bathroom will look like after renovation.
Now it's his job. Now, he's your whip.
Not bad, if in the process of collecting information to be bought anything - say, a new mirror or a locker. Purchase a mirror with a high probability comes along with a purchase of the shell. Buying for buying - and once you discover that your apartment has a new and beautiful bathroom.
Step by step, an act for the act - sometimes not even suspect how far it can make. Once upon a time I also started with the bathroom (and it was going to limit), but very soon the restructuring and conversion of spread all over the apartment (after all, stupid, if the bathroom is renovated, and the rest of the room does not?), And alteration, which was to take a maximum of two weeks, turned into a six-month overhaul.
People sometimes use more radical methods to get yourself to act, for example, create artificial crises. Once I came to visit her friend and saw that in the living room, on the most conspicuous place, cut off a large piece of wallpaper. He did it intentionally to cut off escape routes, and finally paste new wallpaper.
Warning
Irreversible dreyfk top repair (and in any case) often begins with a simple action - view of the newspaper, magazine, website, shopping, phone call.
It's simple - do not need a non-binding call?
It is easy. But even that we often can not afford. Too lazy to instantly recognize all of our tricks and softly whispered: "Of course, it is necessary to call. But why must today? That, in essence, change if you call tomorrow? ".
We readily agree, and say to myself that call tomorrow or the day after - certainly call!
A day after suddenly remembering that soon will trip, and there is not far off vacation and a trip to the resort. And, it turns out that the expert should be invited no earlier than one month. Or three.
Or never.
So when you find a good, serious, intelligent and utterly compelling reasons not to do that for a long time are going to do, then most likely, these reasons come up with your resourceful laziness.
Miracles do not happen. In order to overcome the resistance of laziness, you still have to make a small first step:
open the newspaper,
to promise
dial a phone number,
arrange a meeting.
Illustrations to the above
Start with whatever
The hardest part of any job - is beginning. For example, all writing people know that it is better to have a very bad text or a crude instrument, than not have any. So instead of looking longingly at the blank page in Word and try to come up with a nice first sentence, make the workpiece.
That is, as soon as possible, start writing whatever comes to mind. At the professional slang - make brick, fish, disc.
As a result, you get a lab text, replete with errors. But with this text work much easier, because we already have, something to work with. It is not necessary to invent something from scratch, it is only necessary to edit, correct sentences, reduce, add, swap, and the like.
This work does not require a strong-willed and intelligent effort, and a special working attitude and can be performed even in the short intervals between successive distractions.
How to quit your job?
I do not like the work that I do. Low pay, the prospect of growth in terms of career and money is zero. But I can not bring myself to change it, although I understand that with his skills without too much trouble I can find a better place. I hate it, every day I go, how to hard labor, but still not doing anything. I'm afraid that if the leave, it may be that the new location will be even worse, and will not have to go back. Or maybe I'm just afraid of abrupt changes? From a letter
Abrupt changes in fear of any normal person. The solution is to make the necessary changes are less dramatic, but even better - almost invisible.
There are two tactics of dismissal.
For a "desperate"
You organize a crisis. One and all declare their plans of care - to paint yourself into a corner, that there was no way back to fear of being exceeded in the silly position of the fear of change. Pros. Cut off the retreat, thereby increasing their own determination. Prepares superiors and colleagues to think that you are leaving. Lows. Cut off the retreat, if you suddenly change your mind. Cause attacks of aggression from his boss (if loudly and convincingly explain why a normal person can not work where you work).
However, co-workers, while forced to remain in this dreadful place, love to you, too, do not test.
For a "cautious"
First, find a new job. Until it is time left - keep quiet about their plans. Pros. You avoid tension with the authorities. You can change your mind at any time. Minus. It is because there is a possibility at any time to stop, you can end up as nothing to do.
The choice of these scenarios is not so much from your logical reasoning, but on your character: whether you prefer the sound effects, or likely to act on the sly.
In my opinion, "cautious" is preferable. Especially for those who have something to lose - a position, the position, a decent salary.
Making decisions is difficult. The best way - do not make decisions. No need to venture to the decisive actions to persuade and to break itself, endlessly weigh the "pros" and "against" unnecessary tests to expose his psyche.
Start small. For example, the transfer of potentially useful documents on your home computer.
Then clean the service desk drawers (as well get rid of the long-term stuff), check (just in case) options for other work - read the ads, talk with friends, send a resume (for good luck - suddenly respond?), Go to the interview (out of pure interest), make up (just for fun) plans for the future.
At the same time you understand that the final decision is still pending and at any time you can stop the charges. No abrupt actions, difficult decisions, but no non-committal meetings and conversations. But these conversations every day to strengthen your idea of an imminent departure. You have already embarked on an escalator, you're going already. Without realizing it, in small steps, you are moving to big changes.
Usually we talk about laziness, when it is not able to bring myself to do what should be done. In this case we can be extremely hard-working people. But to proceed to a particular case, give up the habit, change the fact that it is high time to change - for many of us have become almost insurmountable problem.
How to learn a foreign language? How to start a new project? How to increase their activity in the workplace? How to quit smoking? How to lose weight? How to overcome everyday "household lazy"? - Each of us can add to this list of his problem, which is not resolved for months and even years.
The author proposes a simple and effective way to deal with their own passivity, inertia, endless procrastination, which will help even the most limp man to become active and successful person.
The great thing about our method is that you will not have to collect in a fist, or change its character. Your plans and actions will be "samorealizuemymi" and you follow them, because they do not do them will be impossible.
Get on the escalator
Most of the cases that we make in our lives, is servile. We were forced to carry out their duties, resulting in a rise through the ranks and get a raise; forced to meet different people and we talk, ending with promises and agreements, which then must be contained. We make one more step - and we have no choice but to take a second and then third and fourth.
And while we usually do not have to force yourself. Everything happens naturally, "by itself": come to work, went on a business trip, we talked, entered into an agreement, signed a contract hit on his hands.
Word for word - and here we are bound, forced the implementation of which guarantees us a regular salary, developing business, brings rewards and bonuses, raises incomes, is the world new companies, articles, books, movies, songs, television shows, commercials and slogans .
At one cocktail party you are familiar with the Chairman of the Board. Learning that you are the director of advertising agency, he suddenly asked: "We're just planning to change the image. Do not want to take the job? ".
"Why not? I never gave up an interesting job "- it is easy to answer you. And, with a glass in one hand and a plate to another, go on, not knowing what took the first step of a moving escalator.
In the morning you get a call from the bank and asked to attend the meeting to the vice president of development. And most likely, the next two months, you and your staff (who to this day, too, had a problem with laziness) forget about the rest.
Once I had a firm which, among other things, engaged in precisely the organization of corporate events and receptions.
I was once asked:
- And you could not make a presentation of our company?
- Of course! And how much will be invited guests?
- Three hundred, perhaps, three hundred and fifty. Can you handle it?
- Do not worry, happened, and more.
- Excellent. Then tomorrow we are waiting for cost estimates and the draft contract.
Self-confident smile vanished from my face, exactly a minute. In fact, I was well-known fact that with my resources could make a presentation or a banquet for up to one hundred people. And then three hundred!
But it was too late to retreat. The next day the treaty was signed, and after two weeks of the presentation. Omit the details of what it cost me and my staff. We each have our own experience of the successful completion of the work that it was impossible to perform.
Numerous time-trouble, and ought, unexpected for us promises and forced actions effectively neutralize lazy. For example, opening his own business, you will immediately bind itself so many commitments - to employees, customers, partners, creditors, fiscal structures - that will be guaranteed to be active, energetic, hardworking, entrepreneurial, not less than ten hours a day.
For the most part we are starting their own affairs without any willpower. Often we do not even suspect that they have already begun to do. Thoughtlessly saying "yes" in a telephone conversation, taking the advance, agreeing to look at the script, we created a situation of no return.
By linking his first commitment, we are on the escalator, which can only move upwards.
Start by not starting
Do you want to become an entrepreneur. You tired of wage work, you've been dreaming about his own business. Long, long ago. However, on repeated sighs, "How am I sick of it all!" You have not yet come.
Meanwhile, you have a promising business idea and a general understanding of how to develop future business. But you do not know where exactly should start, so do not start. At the same time to time come up with the standard excuse - such as severe congestion and lack of time.
Start with the simple - to find information.
When I need some information, but I have little idea where to look for them and not even quite understand what I want to find, I create a chain.
I appeal to the man who, in my opinion, may know something about the subject of interest to me.
The first important result of the conversation. When I first try to verbally articulate what I need, I will begin to better understand the essence of my problem. Vague idea to take shape. Among the issues due to the interlocutor, who also wants to know why I came to him.
The second important result, I or just get the necessary initial information, or other person will name the person with whom I meet useful.
It is likely that the second source will not be able to help me, but it certainly tells you to whom I should contact.
Thus a chain of action. And, going from one level to another, I'll make it soon to the target, that is, gather all necessary information.
Do not search the net for information about starting a business. On a search query on the possible legal and institutional forms you get so many responses, such excess amount of information that the next step in your own business you decide to do only one year.
It is better to refer to the current employer from among their acquaintances. Briefly describe your idea and give a very general question: "What do you think, why should I start?".
Then take a sheet of paper and write.
People love to give advice, so I guarantee that in one hour you will get more useful information - on taxes, audits, accounting, documentation, recruitment, promotion and advertising business, finding customers and etc., etc. - than if the whole month of wandering the sites.
Stress - useful, because you have to communicate with the practitioner.
And then what? And then you act, is based on the information received. For example, your friend tells you to register as an individual entrepreneur, and say that this should be done.
If he does not know this, then most likely knows someone who knows. Anyway, after a few days you will receive a critical amount of information that will make you take your first real steps.
And if you did not make?
So you do not want to become an entrepreneur and owner of a business. You just like to think about it.
Claw stuck, the bird is the gap
Another example - moving to another country. For most of us it is so difficult and painful issue that often we begin to act, even without taking a final decision.We
waver, we say to others, and myself that are not yet fully defined, it is unknown how it all turns, but at the same time:
gradually collect documents;
find out the value of real estate or rental apartments;
visit - just in case! - Offices of firms specializing in immigration;
read books and articles about the country's alleged habitat;
to correspond with friends who have gone there;
know the cost of transportation of things ...
And when all information is received, all documents are collected, and the packet with questionnaires sent to the embassy, the case for three-quarters done. Claw stuck, way back almost cut off (which we do not think about it). And, already moving by inertia, we have to collect additional documents have to learn a foreign language, forced to seek buyers for the apartment, forced to gather in the street.
Usually two or three short steps to the case was initiated irreversible. We will finish it just because it has already spent some money, made some things, after all, they told it to his friends, colleagues or superiors and so awkward, or is no longer possible to retreat.
Start a business, not from him - one of the most reliable ways to cheat my laziness.
For example, what is required in order to finally start the long-delayed repair of the bathroom?
Little or nothing. Again, start with a pleasant and easy lessons - collection of information.
You can see the sites of furniture stores. You can go there - why not unwind in the output? - And see everything live. You can buy a nice home improvement magazine and explore design options for bathrooms. By the way, you can inquire at the same time, what new designs tiles, faucets, sinks, tubs appeared for the time that has passed since your last repair.
And if you're not a jack of all trades, you can ask the friends of the cost of professional handlers, and - again, just in case! - Ask them to recommend a reliable person. And pick up the phone - what if one day prove useful.
After all, it can be done? You can. And it even matter can not be called.
However, these views, conversations and visits to shops gradually - without straining the will and courageous effort - pushing you to the top of repairs. To be more precise - quietly pulled into repair.
The Last Drop - call expert (designer kafeleukladchiku, plumbing). Just to know his schedule, price and so on.
And somewhere on that stage will the final push. For example, the specialist will ask you if you actually plan to start work, and you take, so suddenly, and the exact date of call, and even invite them to come tomorrow.
Now the ball in his half of the field. Now he will have to convince you how wonderful bathroom will look like after renovation.
Now it's his job. Now, he's your whip.
Not bad, if in the process of collecting information to be bought anything - say, a new mirror or a locker. Purchase a mirror with a high probability comes along with a purchase of the shell. Buying for buying - and once you discover that your apartment has a new and beautiful bathroom.
Step by step, an act for the act - sometimes not even suspect how far it can make. Once upon a time I also started with the bathroom (and it was going to limit), but very soon the restructuring and conversion of spread all over the apartment (after all, stupid, if the bathroom is renovated, and the rest of the room does not?), And alteration, which was to take a maximum of two weeks, turned into a six-month overhaul.
People sometimes use more radical methods to get yourself to act, for example, create artificial crises. Once I came to visit her friend and saw that in the living room, on the most conspicuous place, cut off a large piece of wallpaper. He did it intentionally to cut off escape routes, and finally paste new wallpaper.
Warning
Irreversible dreyfk top repair (and in any case) often begins with a simple action - view of the newspaper, magazine, website, shopping, phone call.
It's simple - do not need a non-binding call?
It is easy. But even that we often can not afford. Too lazy to instantly recognize all of our tricks and softly whispered: "Of course, it is necessary to call. But why must today? That, in essence, change if you call tomorrow? ".
We readily agree, and say to myself that call tomorrow or the day after - certainly call!
A day after suddenly remembering that soon will trip, and there is not far off vacation and a trip to the resort. And, it turns out that the expert should be invited no earlier than one month. Or three.
Or never.
So when you find a good, serious, intelligent and utterly compelling reasons not to do that for a long time are going to do, then most likely, these reasons come up with your resourceful laziness.
Miracles do not happen. In order to overcome the resistance of laziness, you still have to make a small first step:
open the newspaper,
to promise
dial a phone number,
arrange a meeting.
Illustrations to the above
Start with whatever
The hardest part of any job - is beginning. For example, all writing people know that it is better to have a very bad text or a crude instrument, than not have any. So instead of looking longingly at the blank page in Word and try to come up with a nice first sentence, make the workpiece.
That is, as soon as possible, start writing whatever comes to mind. At the professional slang - make brick, fish, disc.
As a result, you get a lab text, replete with errors. But with this text work much easier, because we already have, something to work with. It is not necessary to invent something from scratch, it is only necessary to edit, correct sentences, reduce, add, swap, and the like.
This work does not require a strong-willed and intelligent effort, and a special working attitude and can be performed even in the short intervals between successive distractions.
How to quit your job?
I do not like the work that I do. Low pay, the prospect of growth in terms of career and money is zero. But I can not bring myself to change it, although I understand that with his skills without too much trouble I can find a better place. I hate it, every day I go, how to hard labor, but still not doing anything. I'm afraid that if the leave, it may be that the new location will be even worse, and will not have to go back. Or maybe I'm just afraid of abrupt changes? From a letter
Abrupt changes in fear of any normal person. The solution is to make the necessary changes are less dramatic, but even better - almost invisible.
There are two tactics of dismissal.
For a "desperate"
You organize a crisis. One and all declare their plans of care - to paint yourself into a corner, that there was no way back to fear of being exceeded in the silly position of the fear of change. Pros. Cut off the retreat, thereby increasing their own determination. Prepares superiors and colleagues to think that you are leaving. Lows. Cut off the retreat, if you suddenly change your mind. Cause attacks of aggression from his boss (if loudly and convincingly explain why a normal person can not work where you work).
However, co-workers, while forced to remain in this dreadful place, love to you, too, do not test.
For a "cautious"
First, find a new job. Until it is time left - keep quiet about their plans. Pros. You avoid tension with the authorities. You can change your mind at any time. Minus. It is because there is a possibility at any time to stop, you can end up as nothing to do.
The choice of these scenarios is not so much from your logical reasoning, but on your character: whether you prefer the sound effects, or likely to act on the sly.
In my opinion, "cautious" is preferable. Especially for those who have something to lose - a position, the position, a decent salary.
Making decisions is difficult. The best way - do not make decisions. No need to venture to the decisive actions to persuade and to break itself, endlessly weigh the "pros" and "against" unnecessary tests to expose his psyche.
Start small. For example, the transfer of potentially useful documents on your home computer.
Then clean the service desk drawers (as well get rid of the long-term stuff), check (just in case) options for other work - read the ads, talk with friends, send a resume (for good luck - suddenly respond?), Go to the interview (out of pure interest), make up (just for fun) plans for the future.
At the same time you understand that the final decision is still pending and at any time you can stop the charges. No abrupt actions, difficult decisions, but no non-committal meetings and conversations. But these conversations every day to strengthen your idea of an imminent departure. You have already embarked on an escalator, you're going already. Without realizing it, in small steps, you are moving to big changes.
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