So, dear readers, let's talk about men. By the way, if you wish, you can show them this story: will talk about the evening with a cup of tea. What are these kind of people, which brings us women, the happiness, the sorrow, the joy, the sadness? Why do not we sometimes feel, walking beside them, a strong arm and legs? Let's try to find answers to these questions. What if the reason us women?
Secret One: tell him compliments
Have you ever done to her husband is quite an innocent remark, which he suddenly reacted and, perhaps, for a while closed? You ask yourself surprised: "What have I said?" Very often the wife inadvertently make tough remarks about their husbands, causing them pain. Replicas of the type: "This is a man?", "Where is your man's pride?", "And where did you get your hands just grow?" And others like them not only to humiliate the man, but also alienated him from his wife. King Solomon, the great sage and a great psychologist, in his Proverbs offers his vision of the secrets of marital happiness: "The wise wife ustaivayte house." The role of women, the wives in creating a happy home and trusting relationships within the family is extremely high. That is the wisdom of the man's wife will take place as the head of the family.
If a man feels that he lacks any significant male qualities, he is trying to hide that fact from everyone, as well as his wife. He may resort to sarcasm, irony, sharpness in the conversation, even to despotism. And no one, including his relatives, not even guess that this is only a trick by which he seeks to protect the vulnerable. And if the wife will always tell him on the missing money, and even compared her husband's awkward with a skilful neighbor, it will do only one thing - my husband turn into a sluggish snail, and she - in a pulsating, ever-cranky magpie.
In one of the family counseling a woman told me that her husband did not like working in the garden. In their small area of great need men's hands, because she herself is weak health. Her husband does not react to her constant complaints and requests for help. On the contrary, under any pretext, trying to hurry to get away from home, while his wife did not have time "to harness" him in the garden. Their relationship became strained, so that it is in the hearts of even stated that such a man she did not want only one name that my husband is. It turned out that she often abused her husband. After our conversation, the woman decided to change his attitude towards her husband and try to see something good in it, even though it "sees no prospect of this."
Some time later a woman came to me again and told about the changes occurred: "Once I did manage to persuade her husband to help. He took a shovel and started digging up the garden. I was standing nearby, tuning in to "a new vision of old," and suddenly could not help admiring him, his muscles in her arms, lightly. I could not resist, and scattered in compliments at him! You say this man! I do not imagine that my words for it are so important. It is, of course, once the form has not shown that he was glad the recognition, but problems with the garden I have no more! "
Wives need to know what is important is the recognition of the need to husband its importance in the family, his best qualities, skills, credibility and merit. The wise wife will satisfy this need by men. She will try to support his self-confidence, even when no one else does.
Secret Two: keep it in the successes and failures
Wives sometimes do not fully understand what efforts are required from a man to earn, to ensure that feed his family. Men seldom talk about it. They do not talk about that with greater understanding to react to the needs of its halves, if achieved greater success at work. If a man does not get satisfaction from their work, it is sure to affect his relationship with his wife. Here also need the wisdom of his wife. It can either contribute to the success of her husband, or prevent, and thus contribute to the destruction of their marriage.
"My husband had a prestigious higher education, but due to certain circumstances was forced to go to work by the seller on the market - tells its own sad experience Valentine's Day. - I could not accept this position. It seemed to me that my husband just does not look for opportunities to change things, he just grow lazy. When he came out of the market, I was trying to provoke him, pin up, it woke up to a man. "Well, what's up with our genius to run errands? - I asked. - Do you even pay the rent this month naskrebesh? "My husband silently endured insults and humiliation, but one day he came home. He divorced me and married another woman. Today he is - a successful businessman, confident person, and I'll be a long time to disentangle his irony and sarcasm. "
It is a sad experience. But it is useful for those who practice a similar relationship in the family. Solomon says about such wives: "Grumpy's wife, that drops" or "Better to live in the wilderness, than with a brawling woman and angry." Woman's ability to express a lot of uncontrolled negative emotions can make family life bitter. Typically, children who live in such a situation, seek quicker to fly from the nest.
Secret Three: let him go on a fishing trip
Wives should be remembered that the husband needs friends outside his home. This is not the neglect of his wife. Not nuyte Revolution. There is a category of men who, rejoicing in his success or good luck, have a great desire to show off to friends, get approval and recognition of colleagues. They want to go on a fishing trip, invite friends home or to arrange a holiday in the countryside. Since women tend to store the family home, she wants to share the joy of the very happiest moments with her husband, waiting for them again and again, and the desire to celebrate the success of her husband outside the family circle it is perceived with hostility, and her anxiety, frustration, bewilderment and outrage for the cause of quarrels and misunderstanding. Wife should treat this particular man with a great understanding to meet friends outside the home did not evoke the feeling of guilt. Typically, the satisfaction of this need can be attentive to her husband's wife, raises self-esteem.
Secret Four: not to give him advice
Experiencing stressful situations every day, husbands need not a man who willingly gives advice and a careful listener. If the wife knows all the answers, the man is experiencing anxiety and inferiority complex. In a short time, and her husband no longer trusted his wife, his nerdy experiences closes in itself, and his wife sadly observed: "When he was courting me, he was not so silent."
Men prefer not to talk about their problems or failures. They are trying to solve them alone. Sometimes a man does not recognize a friend even if you do not believe that he will help. This is the essence of men - not to shift their problems on the shoulders of others, and solve them yourself. If a man prefers not to talk to you about your problems, do not force it. Give him as much time as needed, so he coped with the problem and he decided to tell you about it. At such moments, better help him regain his composure encouragement, kindness and faith in his strength.
Secret One: tell him compliments
Have you ever done to her husband is quite an innocent remark, which he suddenly reacted and, perhaps, for a while closed? You ask yourself surprised: "What have I said?" Very often the wife inadvertently make tough remarks about their husbands, causing them pain. Replicas of the type: "This is a man?", "Where is your man's pride?", "And where did you get your hands just grow?" And others like them not only to humiliate the man, but also alienated him from his wife. King Solomon, the great sage and a great psychologist, in his Proverbs offers his vision of the secrets of marital happiness: "The wise wife ustaivayte house." The role of women, the wives in creating a happy home and trusting relationships within the family is extremely high. That is the wisdom of the man's wife will take place as the head of the family.
If a man feels that he lacks any significant male qualities, he is trying to hide that fact from everyone, as well as his wife. He may resort to sarcasm, irony, sharpness in the conversation, even to despotism. And no one, including his relatives, not even guess that this is only a trick by which he seeks to protect the vulnerable. And if the wife will always tell him on the missing money, and even compared her husband's awkward with a skilful neighbor, it will do only one thing - my husband turn into a sluggish snail, and she - in a pulsating, ever-cranky magpie.
In one of the family counseling a woman told me that her husband did not like working in the garden. In their small area of great need men's hands, because she herself is weak health. Her husband does not react to her constant complaints and requests for help. On the contrary, under any pretext, trying to hurry to get away from home, while his wife did not have time "to harness" him in the garden. Their relationship became strained, so that it is in the hearts of even stated that such a man she did not want only one name that my husband is. It turned out that she often abused her husband. After our conversation, the woman decided to change his attitude towards her husband and try to see something good in it, even though it "sees no prospect of this."
Some time later a woman came to me again and told about the changes occurred: "Once I did manage to persuade her husband to help. He took a shovel and started digging up the garden. I was standing nearby, tuning in to "a new vision of old," and suddenly could not help admiring him, his muscles in her arms, lightly. I could not resist, and scattered in compliments at him! You say this man! I do not imagine that my words for it are so important. It is, of course, once the form has not shown that he was glad the recognition, but problems with the garden I have no more! "
Wives need to know what is important is the recognition of the need to husband its importance in the family, his best qualities, skills, credibility and merit. The wise wife will satisfy this need by men. She will try to support his self-confidence, even when no one else does.
Secret Two: keep it in the successes and failures
Wives sometimes do not fully understand what efforts are required from a man to earn, to ensure that feed his family. Men seldom talk about it. They do not talk about that with greater understanding to react to the needs of its halves, if achieved greater success at work. If a man does not get satisfaction from their work, it is sure to affect his relationship with his wife. Here also need the wisdom of his wife. It can either contribute to the success of her husband, or prevent, and thus contribute to the destruction of their marriage.
"My husband had a prestigious higher education, but due to certain circumstances was forced to go to work by the seller on the market - tells its own sad experience Valentine's Day. - I could not accept this position. It seemed to me that my husband just does not look for opportunities to change things, he just grow lazy. When he came out of the market, I was trying to provoke him, pin up, it woke up to a man. "Well, what's up with our genius to run errands? - I asked. - Do you even pay the rent this month naskrebesh? "My husband silently endured insults and humiliation, but one day he came home. He divorced me and married another woman. Today he is - a successful businessman, confident person, and I'll be a long time to disentangle his irony and sarcasm. "
It is a sad experience. But it is useful for those who practice a similar relationship in the family. Solomon says about such wives: "Grumpy's wife, that drops" or "Better to live in the wilderness, than with a brawling woman and angry." Woman's ability to express a lot of uncontrolled negative emotions can make family life bitter. Typically, children who live in such a situation, seek quicker to fly from the nest.
Secret Three: let him go on a fishing trip
Wives should be remembered that the husband needs friends outside his home. This is not the neglect of his wife. Not nuyte Revolution. There is a category of men who, rejoicing in his success or good luck, have a great desire to show off to friends, get approval and recognition of colleagues. They want to go on a fishing trip, invite friends home or to arrange a holiday in the countryside. Since women tend to store the family home, she wants to share the joy of the very happiest moments with her husband, waiting for them again and again, and the desire to celebrate the success of her husband outside the family circle it is perceived with hostility, and her anxiety, frustration, bewilderment and outrage for the cause of quarrels and misunderstanding. Wife should treat this particular man with a great understanding to meet friends outside the home did not evoke the feeling of guilt. Typically, the satisfaction of this need can be attentive to her husband's wife, raises self-esteem.
Secret Four: not to give him advice
Experiencing stressful situations every day, husbands need not a man who willingly gives advice and a careful listener. If the wife knows all the answers, the man is experiencing anxiety and inferiority complex. In a short time, and her husband no longer trusted his wife, his nerdy experiences closes in itself, and his wife sadly observed: "When he was courting me, he was not so silent."
Men prefer not to talk about their problems or failures. They are trying to solve them alone. Sometimes a man does not recognize a friend even if you do not believe that he will help. This is the essence of men - not to shift their problems on the shoulders of others, and solve them yourself. If a man prefers not to talk to you about your problems, do not force it. Give him as much time as needed, so he coped with the problem and he decided to tell you about it. At such moments, better help him regain his composure encouragement, kindness and faith in his strength.
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